My Happiness Recipe

Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

My life is changing, I am changing.

I have the great privilege at this point in my life to focus on myself, to find the right path for me moving forward.

As much as I am grateful for this wonderful opportunity, it has not made me happy every single day. There are many days when my thoughts make me think too many things, too far ahead, are way too complicated or contain situations that might not even happen at all.

Sometimes, the decisions ahead feel like a burden and I would just love to crawl up in bed, asking to be woken up when every choice has been made.

So whenever this happens and I feel that certain times drain too much energy, I come back to my Happiness Recipe. A recipe that grounds me, brings me back to my roots and helps me remember what this journey is all about.

All we need is ourselves, a dash of gratitude, a spoonful of hope, a generous amount of love and some wonderful childlike imagination.
And above all do not forget to sprinkle that with a little attitude of „Do more of what makes you happy“.

Your personal attitude to life, to people or to a situation can influence all those things for the better. Ultimately, it’s the only thing that you’re in charge of, that you can control. There are and will be many things in your life that you won’t be able to control, especially when other people are involved. You can’t control what another person feels or how another person might react in a certain situation. In any case, it’s their responsibility. All you can do is let go of what you’re not able to change and put your efforts towards the things and situations that you can influence.

Everybody we meet is at a different point of their journey and hence act based on there personal experiences that you have not lived through. So step out of your own box to be able to see another person’s perspective and their journey in a whole different light. And this might in turn also shed some new light on your current situation and make you see things in a completely new way.

Unhappiness often lies in the gap between that which we have now and what we think we need in life. But we don’t need to acquire anything or need anyone else to make us happy. Your happiness is not based on what you have or who is in your life but only on the way you choose to see your life. So don’t be a hostage to the concept of happiness, but choose to live and experience every step of the way, with all its highs and lows. Take full responsibility for your own happiness and stop making everyone and everything else responsible.

Sometimes the best thing you can do is not think, not wonder, not imagine, not obsess. Just breathe & have faith that everything will work out for the best.

Gratitude is not only a wonderful way to make yourself happy right now, but it also turns what we have into enough.

You will always encounter a bad day, but you will know that you have had better days and that they will come around again. So be grateful for that.

You might not have everything you want, but I’m pretty sure most people living in western countries have everything they need.

A roof over your head, clothes on your body, air in your lungs and a meal on the table. And this is already much, much more than millions of people, including many children have on this planet. You have the privilege of waking up each morning to a new and exciting day that gives you the possibility to start over, reinvent yourself, find a new hobby, do what you love or fall in love without having to worry about such basic things as a home, food or your health. So when waking up tomorrow morning, instead of grumbling at your alarm clock, try saying thank you for a beautiful new day.

There’s nothing perfect in this world. And things that seem perfect from the outside are mostly not so perfect when you take a closer look. So don’t aspire to live a perfect life or a life of someone else that you deem to be perfect when looking form the outside. There is no such thing as a perfect life. Always remember that you are blessed, because you have everything that you need to lead the happy life that’s perfect for you.

Hope is the only thing stronger than fear.

What is hope?
Is it to want or desire something or someone?
Is it that whatever you have envisioned in your mind, might indeed happen?
Is it that gut feeling that it’s worth holding out and hanging on just a little bit longer?
Is it that feeling that what is wanted can actually be had?
Is it the believe that everything will turn out for the best?

Absolutely, that’s a yes to all of the above!

It takes everything to hope and means never ceasing to be amazed, wearing your heart on your sleeve, holding your breath and waiting to hear „I love you, too…“, believing that tomorrow could be better than today, that someone might give you a second chance or you will open that door once more for someone who might change your life, that you’ll make a difference and that you matter.

It is crossing your fingers when your map doesn’t make sense anymore and when your inner compass doesn’t know truly north from truly lost.

Without hope, what kind of life would you lead?
Life is a leap of faith and the boldest declaration of hope there is. And it’s up to you…

Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets.
So love the people that treat you right and forget about the ones who don’t.
And believe that everything happens for a reason…
If you get a chance, take it.
If it changes your life, let it.
Nobody said it would be easy…
They just promised it would be worth it.

To love, to be loved. This really is the crux of the whole adventure that we call life. So love like you have never loved before, fall in love with life and free yourself of any limitations that you’re setting yourself by not being open to those wonderful life changing experiences.
Loving might always be the biggest mistake or it might be the greatest adventure that you’ll embark on. So you have to love and if you or your significant other doesn’t get love right, you have to move on and above all forgive in time. And then you have to remember that you have forgiven. Because otherwise you won’t be able to move on. And if you’re not able to move on you’ll be stuck in the past and won’t be open to any new love that might be blossoming somewhere waiting for you.

Always believe that something great is about to happen.

Children play and have fun. At some point, we stopped doing that as we became adults and became more serious about life.
Play make-believe, jump on the bed, play tag, watch Disney movies and cry when Simba’s Dad, Mufasa, dies and above all, never feel too old or too silly to play with a child any game that they can imagine.

This is my recipe and it might not work for everyone.
So I encourage you to try to find your own recipe! Listen to yourself and find out what truly makes you happy and what helps you lead a happy life.
And don’t forget to do something that truly makes you happy today and then…do more of that!

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