About Comfort Zones, Courage and Happiness

I am so far out of my comfort zone at the moment. That leaves me with that uncomfortable feeling of not having my life under control anymore.
But if you look closer you can see that this is not entirely true.

A comfort zone is an area in which you feel comfortable. In this area you feel at ease. You feel safe.
Within your comfort zone you know the people that you interact with well. Situations will rarely throw you off balance.
Letting something new enter or stepping out of that bubble is mostly a bit difficult when you’re used to having it all well under control. It also means that you most likely have a daily routine that requires very little effort. While this might feel easy it will only ever yield acceptable results.
If you want to improve, develop, learn, risk to fall in love – you will have to step out of that comfort zone.

And I have stepped out. And it felt horrible. But it has also felt empowering, humbling and expanding, as I’ve learned to deal with the adversity that is associated with stepping out.

I am relaunching my website, as it took me some time to hone in on what it is that I actually want to do and figuring out which gift would be most valuable to give to the world.
This is scary. It means I have to go out and talk about what I am doing, I have to sell myself. And though I am good with people both one on one and in groups, I have never felt 100% comfortable with the spotlight on me.
However, this is not the only reason I am way out of my comfort zone right now.
My husband and I moved to Dublin recently. While I love the openness and warmth of the people, the infrastructure and quality of life is not necessarily something I was prepared for. So we are learning and trying to adjust as best we can. But what this adventure has also revealed is that our home country does have its good sides as well, something you only learn when you leave it behind. In any case, we do value the experience and it was the right step for us.
However, it’s brought me way out of my comfort zone and I had quite a comfortable little bubble that I used to live in.

The past months have been a rollercoaster. Stepping out of ones comfort zone can feel like you’re lost, like you’re trying to swim though you’ve never learned how to. It’s hard and it takes courage.
But it is worth it.
Because it showed me how strong I am, what I am capable of doing and it constantly reminds me what it actually is that makes me happy and what doesn’t.
When you are brave enough to step out of your comfort zone you learn new things, which you will either love, or not so much. The ones that you do love will be a valuable addition to your life. And the ones that you don’t will remind you the next time around that another path might be better.

In the end, if you find the courage to step out, that’s where the magic happens. And that’s the truth!
That’s where you can find happiness. And that’s wehre you get your control back.
That’s where you’ll find that certain kind of magic that only happens when you’re brave enough to leave that comfortable bubble of yours.
It’ll give you new experiences, new feelings, it allows you to create yourself in so many new ways, and simply lets life happen.

I still struggle. And I still have bad days. But I’ve never felt more alive.
I hope you find the courage to step of your comfort zone in order to find something that makes you happy.

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