The Dalai Lama on Happiness

One of the Dalai Lama’s commitments in life is to promote human values, such as compassion, forgiveness, tolerance, contentment and self-discipline. According to the Dalai Lama, as human beings we are all the same. We are all seeking happiness and do not want to suffer. You will find quite a number of Dalai Lama quotes in different places on this website and a lot of the values I live by are based on what the Dalai Lama teaches. This is why I am dedicating a whole post to the Dalai Lama and his teachings, which from my point of view, offer a unique view on this world.

The purpose of your lives is to be happy.

Yes, yes, yes! Lead a life that lights you up, that is special and fulfilling for you, a life on your terms that makes you happy. I also believe that happiness means something different to everyone. So happiness looks and feels different for everyone, as we differ in our experiences and priorities. Therefore, it is so important to find out what truly makes you happy without any pressure from the outside world. We sometimes feel that we have to be, act or look a certain way in order to feel accepted, loved, successful…while I do understand what that feels like and how difficult it can be to let go of that, I hope you learn to do so. Because if you don’t you will live a life on someone else’s terms instead of a life that truly makes you happy.

Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.

I truly know how difficult kindness can be when someone is rude to you. But those will probably be the times when it is the most kind to be compassionate towards another person. You always have the choice to be rude in return or to find a little bit of kindness in your heart. You will certainly make this world not only a kinder, but also a happier place by doing so!

Give the ones you love wings to fly, roots to come back and reasons to stay.

I think that this is what true and unconditional love is all about! You want to encourage your loved ones to step into their potential and be the person they want to be. Shared experiences, a shared home, time spent together will give them the roots that humans crave, a place to come back to. And by continuing to be encouraging, empowering without judgement and sharing the good and bad times, you will give them reason to return. Love is the best and bravest thing you’ll ever do and the rewards you’ll reap are the ones that make this life so extraordinary!

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.

It’s our decisions and therefore our actions that truly define who we are. It is not what we say, but what we do that’s important.

The goal is not to be better than the other man, but your previous self.

Comparison to someone else will not move you forward. Instead it will make you feel bad and you might compare yourself to someone you will never be like. Everyone has different talents and strengths. We’ve all made different experiences that make us the person we are today. Also remember that on the outside a lot of things look perfect while they’re not on the inside. That being said, you cannot compare apples with oranges. Instead, try to be better than yourself. Always try to be a better person than you were yesterday.

If you want others to be happy practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.

We’ve talked about how compassionate actions towards others make you happy. What is a lot harder though is being compassionate towards yourself. While difficult – and I know what I am talking about, because this is something I do struggle with now and again – I strongly encourage you to start practicing your compassion muscle! Forgive yourself for mistakes. Allow for downtimes when your body asks you to take it slow. And make sure to always make time for yourself and the people and things you care about.

What prevents you form living the way you want to live your life?

I hope this last question that the Dalai Lama once asked will get you moving. Take some time to sit down and reflect on what’s holding you back from living the life you truly want to live. Once you know, figure out how to best go about eliminating those obstacles in order to be able to live a happy life on your terms!

Which one of the Dalai Lama’s quotes resonates with you most?

I hope that wherever you are on your journey, you can take the Dalai Lama’s words as an inspiration today to start living the happy life on your terms that your deserve!

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