A Letter to My Younger Self

Nina,
You are B-E-A-U-T-I-F-U-L!
Just the way you are.
With all your dreams and everything that you want to do and achieve.
Make sure to keep dreaming as you grow older. Keep your eyes open so that you may see and learn new things along your way. Take life in, don’t just let it pass you by. Choose and go for whatever feels right to you. It doesn’t matter if someone believes in you or not (although I know it’s easier to have someone in your corner!). As long as you believe in your dreams and they make you happy they are absolutely worth going for!
Your dreams will change as you grow older. That’s not a bad thing! You are allowed to let go of dreams, things and people that don’t make you feel good anymore and drain more energy than they give you joy. I know that the letting go piece is hard for you. It feels like giving up and you’ve always been one to try to push through. Don’t do it if it makes you feel miserable, stressed and overwhelmed. Your happiness and wellbeing is more important!
If you choose to do something in your life, do it for yourself! I know that you are more about others, you want to help and you want to make the people in your life proud. You want to be loved. Don’t do it for anyone else just because you might think that’s what’s expected. You deserve love no matter what you decide to do with your life!
You are loved. And don’t you ever forget it!
It’s a beautiful thing, a wonderful character trait that you think about others so much. But don’t you forget about yourself! What makes you happy? How do you feel when you’re happy? That’s a good feeling! Once you know it, stick to it!
Don’t be so hard on yourself when things don’t go as planned or when mistakes happen. They happen. And they are essential so you can learn. You love to learn. So always try to find the positive in a situation like that. I know that can be hard, especially right when it’s happening. You love to be perfect at what you do. However, perfection is a big time eater. It will make you do things you don’t enjoy doing. But in the end it’s your decision how you spend your time. Letting go of something as big as perfection, that’s been a part of your life for so long, it’s not easy. So as you try to do that, be compassionate with yourself, be kind and be forgiving. It will take time!
Life is about stepping out of your comfort zone and trying new things. Life is about falling down and always getting back up. Life won’t always go as planned and I know, losing control can be so so very hard. But there will be valuable lessons to learn that will make you a stronger and wiser person. If something doesn’t work out as you hoped it would, may that be when trying to find work or when you like someone who doesn’t return your feelings, there might be something or someone else waiting for you, an even better fit.
Life unfolds itself in beautiful ways. Never give up on your happiness and always find the courage within to try one more time.
You are absolutely beautiful just the way you are.
You are loved.
You deserve to be happy.
And you’ll make it! I promise!
Wishing I could give you a big hug,
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